IFS+EMDR therapy in Texas, North Carolina and Florida
Healing from the inside out with IFS therapy
IFS THERAPY
We all grow up a part of a system built with parents, caregivers, teachers, siblings, frineds and the list goes on. Each person in the system has unique qualities, characteristics and plays a role in how the system functions, sometimes even taking on roles that they don’t want. How those roles are expressed is largly dependent on the environment and the relationships people in the system have.
Just like this system, we all have an inner system that works very simalarly. We often aren’t aware of our inner systems becuase it mostly operates without our help. However, when we experience an overwhelming life experiences parts of us will take on extreme qualities, characteristics and roles to help bring it back into function.
To an inner system function doesn’t always mean peaceful, It just means it can keep running. When our inner system works to bring us back into function after an overwhelming life experience we may know the system has changed (maybe in an unhelpful way) because we are more anxious, burnt-out, depressed or overwhlmed. These parts may need our help to not just find function but to find support and inner peace.
A lot of us have tried traditional talk therapy where the focus is on thinking and talking to the therapist about your problems but still never quite landing on feeling inner resolve. That’s because most talk therapies are supportive of skill building and problem solving but not so much on relational repair. If you take a look at the problems you’ve brought to therapy I bet each of them involed an interaction with someone else. If we hurt in relationship then that just may be where we will find our deepest resolve. I believe if we really want to help our parts we have to learn how to be with them not just tell then what to do. IFS therapy is focused on connecting and repairing the relationship you share with each part in the system.
Live life designed by you and not your pain
IFS Therapy can help you take back leadership of your life.
Imagine that when an inner disruption of your parts arises, you’re able to notice it, and offer your parts help to restore inner harmony. Think of an orchestra and each instrument is much like a part. When one instrument is out of tune or playing too loud, it can impact the overall harmony. You are the conductor of your own orchestra. With your Calm, Connected, Creative, Curious, Confidnet, Courageous, Compassoinate leadership, you can bring the orchestra back into harmony.
Relief is within reach:
Get to know your parts by creating a parts map with your therapist
Engage in IFS practices using reflective activities such as The Path meditation
Befriend your parts by building relationship to them just as you would a friend.
Explore the inate elements of self that support relatoinship with parts: Calm, Connected, Creative, Curious, Confidnet, Courage, Compassion, Clairity, Choice
FAQS
What others have wondered about IFS therapy.
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IFS therapy is all about relationsihp. The one that you and your therapist have but also the one with yourself.
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No one likes to be pushed or forced and neither do you or your parts. Each step of the way is a process of checking-in and making sure it feels ok for your system to keep moving forward.
I understand that all your parts, even the ones that “don’t want us to go there yet” have a very important role. Let’s go slow and make sure we all work together to really hear what their concerns are and they feel supported. After all your whole system wants the best for you.
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